My name is Asa and I am a 46-year-old wife, mom, an English teacher, and pro-age advocate. 

I made the decision to go gray at 40 when diagnosed with an aggressive autoimmune disease, which also prompted a complete lifestyle overhaul.

This led to an immediate focus on eating unprocessed foods, ditching plastics, and switching non-toxic household cleaning products. But I didn’t make a change in my makeup or personal care products until two years ago because I didn’t know any better. Most people don’t. You can read about my switch to safer skincare here. 

Researching safer choices led to some horrifying realizations.

The beauty market is flooded with products filled with dangerous ingredients, and unfortunately, many of the products marketed for mature skin are among the most toxic. It doesn’t have to be this way.

Safe and effective can be compatible terms and I firmly believe aging gracefully is possible without compromising our health.

I will share all I have learned, my product recommendations, and tips I have gathered along the way. Sharing about all things over 40, specifically beauty and wellness, and connecting with followers on my Instagram account and in my Facebook group is my true passion.

I’m pretty laid back so I make meals as simple as possible with as few ingredients as possible and usually carry on with minimal makeup and natural curls, but sometimes I like to glam it up a bit both in the kitchen and with my look: a pop of color, whether it be on my plate in the form of a new vegetable dish or from a bright lipstick can be enough to change my whole outlook.


The best definition for me? Late bloomer. After floundering around in college for what seemed like forever (probably longer if you ask my dad) eventually obtaining a culinary degree, an English degree, and an MS in education, I finally felt like a grown-up. Well, for the most part. I started my career late, found and married the love of my life later in life than most, and had our beautiful daughter at, “an advanced maternal age” (their words, not mine).

Blessed is also a word I use to describe my life despite (or in spite of) my rheumatoid arthritis. I am married to my best friend and we have an amazing daughter and a Siberian cat named Tatum (aka Tatey, Tater Tot, Tater, Floofer, and Fluffy Butt). I adore our little family.


  • I am an introvert, but no one who knows me would ever guess it.
  • I love making people laugh- sometimes this involves showing off my dance moves.
  • I’ve got some pretty sweet dance moves.
  • I teach Gothic Horror Literature but am scared of the dark.
  • I love Mexican food, barbecue, and southern soul food.
  • I can still do cartwheels.
  • I hope to live in Maine one day.
  • I am a Pinterest Junkie
  • I love otters and Wes Anderson films


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I hope you will enjoy my posts and look forward to connecting with you soon!



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